It actually sounds kind of sweet... for about a second. And then I started to read further and realized that it is a Christian movement that instead of celebrating marriage, as you'd think it's supposed to do, it actually is promoting marriage. Now some of you might be thinking, well who cares, what's the difference? There is a difference and yes, it is signficant.
World Marriage Day honors husband and wife as head of the family, the basic unit of society. It salutes the beauty of their faithfulness, sacrifice and joy in daily, married life.
The idea of celebrating marriage began in Baton Rouge, La., in 1981, when couples encouraged the Mayor, the Governor and the Bishop to proclaim St. Valentines Day as "We Believe in Marriage Day". The event was so successful, the idea was presented to and was adopted by Worldwide Marriage Encounter's National Leadership. By 1982, 43 Governors officially proclaimed the day and celebrations spread to U.S. military bases in several foreign countries. In 1983, the name was changed to "World Marriage Day", designated to be celebrated each year on the second Sunday in February. In 1993, his Holiness, Pope John Paul II, imparted his Apostolic Blessings on World Marriage Day. WMD celebrations continue to grow and spread to more countries and faith expressions every year.
I'm not against marriage, but I definitely don't think it is for everyone. I resent the implications often made about unmarried couples, that their relationship or their love is somehow less real or less valid because they don't have that piece of paper calling them husband and wife. Which brings me to my next issue, husband and wife. World Marriage Day is clearly about marriage between husband and wife, that is a man and a woman, and completely discredits the love that can occur within same-sex relationships.
So, if I don't want to get married - my love somehow isn't legitimate, I'm "living in sin" or not willing to "sacrifice" enough. However, if I do want to get married, but I happen to want to marry another woman... well that's not okay either. Eh, screw World Marriage Day. I mean Valentine's day is enough of a crock of superficial love without having to pair it up with the message that "if you don't get married too, you're really not in love!"
Anyway, as I say, screw World Marriage Day... but it did make me think a little bit about how much marriage is on everyone's minds lately, especially in February. I've often said that I don't want to get married and people often mistake that for a hatred of the institution of marriage. I honestly have nothing against marriage and by saying I don't want to marry, doesn't mean that I wouldn't marry. If I ever found someone that I loved so deeply that I actually wanted to be with them for the rest of my life (or at least, potentially) and they asked me to marry them... yeah I'd say yes. However, I've heard so many women speak of marriage proposals in the terms of "when will he ask me already?" and ultimatums. If you have to put pressure on someone to marry you... do you even really want to marry that person? I think if a marriage proposal doesn't come unsolicited, then it's virtually meaningless. If someone asks you to marry them because they're afraid they'll lose you if they don't (or even worse, they know they'll lose you if they don't) then what is the point?
The way I see it, the only reason to propose to someone is because you're so deeply in love that you can't fathom not having them in your life, you want your friends and family to witness it and join in that love, you want to scream it from the rooftops, you want the world to know, and you just need to express that love in every means possible, including legally.
But if you do all that without, you know, the "legally" part - does that somehow make your love less? I know that theoretically marriage is more than just a piece of paper, but really, technically, is it? Does that piece of paper make your relationship realer? Just because you're sworn in front of friends and family - and potentially "God" - that you will love this person forever, does that somehow make it less forever than if you made a private promise? Does signing that marriage certificate somehow mean that they'll never break your heart or you'll never fall out of love? I know that marriage is a test of faith, but isn't it really more that love is a test of faith? Does the fact that it's somehow "easier" to end a relationship when you're not legally bound to each other, make that bond of marriage somehow less breakable?
I don't have anything against marriage, but I will never "need" it the way some people do. And I will never "crave" that ring and that wedding the way some women do. And that's not to say that they're stupid or weird or old fashioned if they do want and even need the wedding and the ring and the piece of paper. I have nothing but respect for people who want to get married and who actually do it, I just have a distaste for those who want it so much they'd sacrifice the who or at least the why.
So in "honor of" World Marriage Day, consider the next few days before and after Valentine's Day: "Evil Slutopia Wedding Week", or, um, sort of. Yeah never mind that. I don't want to devote a whole week to weddings. Maybe we'll give you two more days, max. I think that's all you need anyway.