So it certainly wasn't SHOCKING when Katy Perry merely sang about kissing a girl just two years later in 2008.
But let's go back even further... how 'bout Greta Garbo, Tallulah Bankhead, Josephine Baker or Louise Brooks? Women having sexual encounters with other women is nothing new.
Most recently, Anna Paquin told the world "I'm a bisexual" in a commercial for the I Give a Damn Campaign, which fights for marriage equality.
How refreshing of these starlets to bring their lady lust into the limelight -- they're giving other females an opportunity to open up about their own sexuality. "By coming forward like this, prominent celebrities make it comfortable for women who might see them as role models to discuss and explore their sexual feelings about other women," says Amy Andre, author of Bisexual Health and executive director of San Francisco Pride.
IF IT FEELS GOOD... Of course, enjoying a girl-on-girl kiss every once in a while doesn't mean you have to identify as bisexual. You could call it hetero-flexible...or don't label it at all.
"There's no exact definition of what bisexual means, so it's really up to each individual," says Stephanie Sanders, PhD, associate director and scientist at the Kinsey Institute. Some women experiment with another woman and still consider themselves straight; other women kiss females and label themselves bisexual.
So how do you know if your girl crush is actually something more? You can think a gal pal is gorgeous and want to hang with her all the time, but that doesn't mean you want to be with her. "If you have always dated men and find yourself suddenly drawn to a certain woman, take some time to dissect your feelings," says Jill Denton, a sex therapist in California.
Run a bath or cozy up on the couch with a glass of wine, and try imagining yourself in a relationship with someone of the same sex. If you can picture it clearly, you may have more than a girl crush.
"If you decide you are interested in women, how far you take it will be a very personal choice based on what you're comfortable with," Denton points out. Schedule some time with a trusted friend to help you hash out your feelings. If you're truly freaked out by your feelings for another woman, you may want to talk to a therapist about it.
And isn't there anything between the two extremes of 'hot' and 'bummed'? Basically a man can only view a woman's bisexuality in one of two ways: as a turn-on or as a threat. What about just accepting it as part of who she is and leaving it at that? Why does it matter what he thinks anyway? Well, yeah okay, obviously it does matter what he thinks - but if he thinks you being who you are is something to be "bummed" about then he can suck it.
Also, why does the author assume that there's a guy in the picture in the first place or that ultimately "The One" will be a guy? Maybe you don't consider him "The One"... maybe "The One" will be a woman? We don't think there's anything wrong with women who identify as straight having a little fun with other women and still identifying as straight. Just like we don't think there's anything wrong with being a lesbian or being bisexual or shedding labels and categories altogether. But it's sort of stupid that Cosmo still ignores the fact that actual real lesbians exist.
To them, girl-on-girl action is - at most - a sign that you might be bisexual (but probably not, you're probably just "hetero-flexible" so don't worry, your man won't mind). Nowhere do they even address the possibility that you might end up identifying as a lesbian. In the same way that kissing girls doesn't automatically mean you're gay, dating men doesn't automatically mean you aren't. Everyone should have the freedom to come up with their own conclusions about themselves and their identities... but it's just kind of interesting that in an article about girls who kiss other girls, they never once mention lesbians.
Do lesbians not read Cosmo? Maybe Cosmo should take a few minutes to acknowledge that there are a lot of different kinds of women out there, instead of talking down to women about whether not it's okay to kiss girls.